It is no secret that we generally have less time and space in our lives for in-person socializing. Pressured by numerous obligations, and preoccupied by social media, many simply do not have the headspace.
However, there is one event in Bosnia and Herzegovina (BiH)’s capital which is trying to change that. Since last year, meet-up events called Mingling have been organized in Sarajevo, aimed at connecting people in a physical space and encouraging social interactions and relationships, whether they involve friendships, romantic connections, or simply socializing.
Mingling, for individuals aged 18 and older, is a unique event in Bosnia and Herzegovina. While in the past, similar events known as ‘traffic light parties’ have been organized in some pubs in Bosnia and Herzegovina, they did not include direct and structured interaction among participants.
The uniqueness of Mingling is its facilitated communication through quick and fun encounters, where participants get to know each other in a controlled and safe environment. Each Mingling event, according to its the founders, is organized with an emphasis on profiling participants to achieve the most successful connections.
One of the founders of Mingling is Ivana Radić. She explained that the idea for organizing Mingling events arose from the desire to create a safe and comfortable space for meeting people, considering society’s increasing digitalized connectivity and the lack of opportunities for personal interactions.
“We realized that there is a strong desire among people to meet new friends or potential romantic partners in an authentic and fun way, outside of the online world. Therefore, we decided to launch Mingling in response to that need, hoping that our events will provide an opportunity for creating meaningful connections and friendships in our city,” says Radić.
Radić added that a Queer event has already been organized by Mingling in the past, and there are plans to continue that practice in the future. “Our goal is to be inclusive and to ensure a safe and comfortable environment for all participants, regardless of their sexual orientation.”
Participants register for Mingling events through an online form. The Mingling team selects participants to create a balance between genders. Selected participants arrive at the event about 15 minutes early to register and receive a welcome drink. The moderator provides a brief introduction explaining the rules and the activity plan. The introductory games and tasks are designed to ‘break the ice’ and encourage interaction.
Mingling offers various programs, but the basic concept remains the same: to facilitate interaction among people in a relaxed and comfortable atmosphere. Radić explains that the standard program includes brief interactions between pairs or groups (speed dating or in a mingling format), after which participants can anonymously decide with whom they would like to continue the conversation or meet again. If both parties express interest, they exchange contact details.
Radić adds that they plan to organize themed evenings soon. One of these themed evenings would include Slow Dating, where participants have more time for conversation and activities like board games, wine tastings, or art workshops. “Such events are ideal for deeper connections through shared interests and activities,” Radić believes.
Radić feels they have already gained recognition and a good reputation as an innovative concept for socializing and meeting new people. Regarding the interest in their events, she adds that it is exceptional, especially among young people seeking authentic ways to connect with others. “Each event receives excellent attendance, and often the capacities fill up quickly,” Radić stated.
She identifies the safe and controlled environment for meeting people as a key advantage of Mingling events, which can be particularly beneficial for individuals who feel insecure or uncomfortable when going out and meeting strangers. Radić believes that such events also help young people step away from digital screens and actively encourage them to participate in social events.
Breaking the Ice
Meris Nikšić is 33 years old and was a participant in last season’s Mingling. He states that he had a very positive experience as this event provided him with the opportunity for direct communication in a relaxed atmosphere.
“Everyone present is there to have fun and meet new people. The organizers have made an effort, and even if you run out of conversation ideas, there are cards with interesting questions and challenges prepared on the table,” Nikšić said.
He believes that young people, as well as those a bit older, should give such an event a chance, as social networks and apps cannot replace in-person meetings. He emphasizes that this is why Mingling is an excellent way to gain new friendships or meet a new partner.
“Time really flies, and you won’t even notice that two hours have passed while talking with other participants. If for some reason you feel uncomfortable coming alone, there’s also a friend zone, so you can come with a companion. Try it yourself and see for yourself,” Nikšić advises.
Priority: Participant Safety
Forty-eight-year-old Azra Kaljanac has been a participant in several Mingling events during the past season. She recalls how positive this experience has been for her. Namely, she finds comfort in the safety of knowing who one is talking to in a face-to-face context, without wondering who is behind an online profile. Additionally, all participants are informed of the rules of conduct in advance, and moderators are always present to ensure that all participants feel safe and respected.
“After three Mingling events, I have several new acquaintances and friendships that I definitely wouldn’t have made if it weren’t for Mingling and the great team that organizes and pays attention to all the details,” Kaljanac emphasized.
All age groups can participate in Mingling, starting from 18 years and older. At previous Mingling events, the majority of participants have been young people aged 18 to 29, as well as adults aged 30 to 45.
Radić points out that the profiles of participants are very diverse, including people from various professions, educational backgrounds, and interests, which makes the events dynamic and a rich experience for all.
Mingling gatherings are held at different locations in Sarajevo, with pubs being the most common venues, aiming to provide a pleasant and relaxed atmosphere.
Both the organizers and the participants interviewed agree that Mingling is an excellent way to meet new people from different walks of life. Through such events, a sense of community develops, while support and friendship are found in ways that virtual platforms cannot offer.
